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It's really hard to be carefree when there are so many scary threats looming over you. It's hard to be content and happy about little things in your life when you feel like they're trivial and you feel like you should always be in a solemn state of mind because there are so many things in the world to be taken seriously. I have always felt guilty for being happy because a part of me has been lead to believe you're not supposed to be happy. If you allow yourself to be happy, something bad will happen. Bad things are happening all the time, if not to you, to other people. There is no good reason to be happy.
But I doubt that line of thinking is what God had planned
for me, or anyone else. I don't think He put us on this planet just to
subscribe to that mentality. It's
difficult to have faith but in the end I have to believe that having faith is
worth the trouble. Faith is the brave
choice. And we can be terrified as we choose it, but it's still the brave
choice. We can choose it in the midst of
swirling pain, utter confusion, and in the face of crippling odds. We can choose it when we're weak, flawed,
selfish, or numb. We can choose it any minute of any day. There is nothing we
need to do first.
I was thinking the other day about things that are
inevitable, specifically pain that is inevitable, like loss of loved ones or
familiar things changing. I was thinking
my usual thought: that I should be sad now because that pain is a guarantee, a
known unknown. That there is no reason to be happy now knowing that pain is
sitting there smack dab in the middle of my future. But like a tiny light in a tunnel, I had a
new thought: maybe I can be sure pain is coming, but I can't be sure that it
will destroy me. I may imagine my future
pain will eviscerate me and leave me a shadow of my former self, but that part
is not a guarantee. It's a possibility, and a scary one. But there is also the
possibility that I will experience pain in an altogether different way. It may change me, but not necessarily for the
worse. I may experience change and loss
and pain in a way that strengthens me, strengthens my relationships with other
people and with God. If we let them,
don't all of our experiences serve to make us more of who we really are at our
core? And I believe that who I am at my core is someone good, someone
sensitive, someone faithful.
I am someone who always tries to see the good. I could have given up on
that endeavor a long time ago, but I haven't. Even at my angriest and most
bitter, I look for good. I am on a continuous search to see things from other
people's point of view while honoring my own point of view.
It's completely pointless and unhelpful to try to figure out God's
plan-- we can
never know in this life. I do think it
might be helpful to be honest with God though, honest in our frustration when
we don't understand. God created us to be vulnerable-- I don't know why. But we
are vulnerable, and that's scary. Sometimes faith will take away our fears, and
sometimes faith will have to coexist with our fears. You can be afraid and
still have faith. You can be angry and still
be loving. You can be confused and still hold onto your fundamental beliefs.
You can be sad and still be grateful.
